Some mothers become pregnant unexpectedly, at a time where they are unprepared and feel unable to cope with a child, and all the responsibilities of being a parent. Issues that a person may come across include financial worries or lack of funds, emotional problems or physical disabilities. When faced with pregnancy some people have an abortion; others may not feel that is right to terminate a pregnancy, and some have left it too late as they did not know they were pregnant. One option is to put your child up for adoption – this is a good idea if you feel that you truly cannot care for the child on your own as you don’t have enough support. The following shows the process, step by step, for putting your child up for adoption.
1. Firstly, you should make an appointment to see your General Practitioner before the birth, and let them know that you wish to put your child up for adoption. If you feel more comfortable talking to a stranger rather than your doctor, you can always make arrangement to a professional at your local health centre. They will have all the information necessary about adoption and put you in touch with the relevant agencies. There are many bogus adoption agencies claiming to be professional, so it is important to go to your local health services who have a list of licensed agencies. That way you can feel confident that the adoption agency you are dealing with are legitimate.
2. Secondly, you should get all the information on your medical records if you are going to put your child up for adoption. If at all possible, the father of the child should be encouraged to get hold of his medical records too as this is important information. It is important that the medical records of the child are recorded for future reference. The child’s medical records can get lost in the process of adoption, so it is a good idea to have the parents’ medical records. This is very helpful if a child becomes ill, especially if they need hospital care, to determine what could be wrong with the child, or if there is anything to look out for in the future. It could prove very beneficial if you can also obtain the medical records of the child’s grandparents.
3. Thirdly, now that you have decided to place your child up for adoption, you need to make a decision on whether to have an open or closed adoption. An open adoption allows the parent can continue to have interrelations with their child even though they have been adopted, so that they can keep close ties. Some parents opt for a closed adoption if they want to cease all contact with their child, in the best interest of the child, so that they consider their adoptive parents as theirs. It is more common for parents to choose an open adoption so they can continue to interact with their child and never sever that bond they feel for their child. If this is what you prefer and it works well for both parents, then an open adoption is the right choice for you.