Divorce nowadays is becoming very common especially among the Western world. In these countries, according to statistics, every second marriage is today ending up in divorce. Moreover, the surprising fact is that more than 70 percent divorce petitions are actually filed by women. This shows that women feel more dissatisfied in their marriages than men.
Going for divorce can be due to many reasons such as financial problems, infidelity, sexual dissatisfaction, physical and emotional abuse and drug use and alcoholism.
What are Men Looking for in a Marriage?
It has been seen that compared to women, men are generally more satisfied and happier with their marriage. But what kind of a marriage partner are they looking for? Men want someone who is bubbly, has positive attitude for life and can generate a cheerful atmosphere at home.
It is a proven fact that women play a major role in creating a positive and happy ambience in the house. Men like optimistic and not-too-demanding or dominating life partner, somebody who can give them their own space and generally has a positive attitude toward life’s challenges.
Men file for divorce when they are stuck with a spouse who is too obsessive and a control freak and who is always complaining about their behaviour in front of others and frequently insulting them.
Nitpicking and Criticism
Men are very irritated by women who are always finding faults in their behaviour. This type of attitude in the long run has a devastating effect on the marriage.
Men generally have a great emotional need to be taken care of by women. They generally reveal their innermost thoughts to them alone, not to their male friends. Men want somebody to take care of them and to love them. If they have a life partner who is full of criticism all the time, then it generally leads to divorce.
Women who are control freaks and who want to dominate others are not liked by men. All men want some personal space for themselves and be their own masters. They do not want to be dominated by their wives and explain to them their every little action and expense.
Generally, they look for women who are gentle, polite and caring and leave them free for pursuing their own interests. Women who understand this need of men and give them enough freedom are successful in making their marriage happy and contented, while relationships where the wife is obsessed with controlling men and children do not usually last long.
Inability to Conceive
Every man wants that he should have his own children to carry forward his name and lineage. The urge to procreate is very strong among men. They therefore want women who are fertile and can give them healthy babies. This desire to have children is one of the major reasons why men want to marry.
Men are looking for life partners who are attractive and give the appearance of robust health, which they take as a sign of high fertility. Fatherhood has its own joys and men do not want to be deprived of the simple pleasures of bringing up their own children and moulding them into successful adults. Infertility among women is thus another important factor which can make men to seek divorce and look for other partners who can procreate and help them in starting a family.
Sex is a basic human want and plays a very important role in a man’s life. A good sex life strengthens the relationship between husband and wife and makes their marriage happy. Regular sex helps in making the partners more intimate and caring towards each other.
Sex has many benefits, both physical and psychological. Married people with a good sex life feel better about themselves. If their wife has absolutely no interest is sexually cold toward them, then there is bound to be a problem in marriage. If there is sexual incompatibility and the partners do not feel like having sex with each other regularly, then the relationship often ends in divorce.
There are today many opportunities to have extra-marital affairs due to modern lifestyle. Indeed, infidelity has in recent decades emerged as one of the leading causes of divorce. No man can tolerate his wife having an affair or sexual relations with another man. It is betrayal of trust and destroys the very foundation of marriage. Very few marital relationships are able to withstand an episode of infidelity.